What a generation we were born into. Where “chivalry is dead” but whatever happened to lady-like behavior? If women expect men to treat them like ladies they must act like ladies. How can we expect men to control themselves when we dress like we run the corner and flirt like we want a one-night-stand? I fear our generation has fallen into a double standard. Where men have to be on their best behavior but women can do or say anything they want and get away with it.
I was on facebook today and I saw that 3 people went from “in a relationship” to “single”. I don’t believe in casual dating. I believe you shouldn’t date someone unless you see them as marriage material. Even then, if it doesn’t work out you should never leave that person with a piece missing. They should leave that relationship fully intact. That’s the problem with men this day in age. They think they can just take what they want from women and be done with it; in fact they make a game out of it. Men should treat women as they would want their future wife to be treated. And women should not make it hard on the men to control their natural urges. That being said guys, “I’m just a man” is not a excuse for anything. You have self control. And ladies, just because it’s “in” does not mean you should wear it.
I can’t stand it when I see girls or guys go from one relationship to another, back to back with hardly a break in between. That is why I am careful to say what a good age for marriage is. You are only ready to be married when you have found out who you are as your own person. Going from guy to guy to guy or girl to girl to girl does not give you time to individuate. After that I think there is a short time in there where you are just getting started on your own and you aren’t fully independent. I think that is the perfect time to be united with the love of you life for the rest of your life. Both of you have individuated but you aren’t so far along that you have your own schedule that you stick to without any variation. It is a time in your life that you will stand up for yourself but are more willing to compromise. That time may come right out of high school for some and for others, their 20s, 3os, or even 40s. No one’s to say when their time is.
I truly believe that most people tend to put God in a box. They say “I want to be married at age 20 and have 3 children by 25” or “I want my man to be tall, dark, and handsome….” or “my woman should have long blond hair, blue eyes, and red lips.” Their time will come and God will provide someone they are attracted to, on HIS time. Not theirs.
I strongly believe that everyone has a soul mate. With casual dating, “hooking up”, and “wearing your heart on your sleeve”, people are not preserving themselves as they ought. Marriage is a holy event, between a man and woman and it is to celebrated. If you give your heart to the One who created it I promise it won’t get chipped away with every passing relationship.
Women, will you act like the ladies you were designed to be and let the men treat you with respect; demand it in fact? And men, will you take on your duties as the natural-born leaders and protect the fragile hearts of women? Don’t let the “norms” of society tell you how to act. You will end up broken and disappointed.